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How much to give at a bar/bat mitzvah?
Rounded to multiples of $18 (chai).
Typical range for one guest
- Immediate family$000 – $000
- Extended family$000 – $000
- Best friend$000 – $000
- Close friend$000 – $000
- Regular friend$000 – $000
- Coworker$54 – $90
- Acquaintance$36 – $72
- Barely know them$36 – $54
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🎒 First time at a bar/bat mitzvah? Cliff notes
- 👉Modest for the synagogue: covered shoulders, knee-length or longer.
- 👉Men usually wear a kippah — they're handed out at the door.
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